open up about sex
Do you want your partner or spouse to open up and talk about
sex, their interests and the things they want to try in bed? Well, here’s the
right way!
Are you having a hard time talking about sex with your
partner?
Sometimes, talking about sex is always an awkward moment, especially
if you’re in a new relationship.
And at other times, you could be in a seasoned relationship
and still feel uncomfortable discussing sex because you’re afraid you may be
judged.
If you want to take an initiate to talk about sex, but your
partner seems too embarrassed to discuss their ideas and thoughts with you, fret
not.
14 tips to get your partner to open up and talk about sex
You can turn even the most prudish of lovers with locked up
secrets into a serial confessor using these 14 tips on how you can get your
lover to start talking about sex.
Start slow, and take a few baby steps using these tips.
And before you know it, you’ll feel closer to your partner.
And your sex life will feel more awesome and fresh with
every passing day!
open sex tips:1 Past experiences. Don’t confess about your
past experiences, especially if your partner doesn’t know just how sexually
liberated and active you’ve been before you met your lover. Surprisingly, most
partners prefer to stay in the dark instead of hearing their partner’s
confession about their kinky past. [Read: 6 things to keep in mind when you
talk about your past relationships]
If you’re sure your partner would be able to handle your
past, slip a few details now and then and watch how they react to it over a
couple of weeks.
But if you want your partner to open up about sex talk, let
your lover know that you’ve had partners before, and that you’re open to trying
new things if it could make both your sex lives more interesting and
fascinating! [Real Life Caution: A bedtime confession gone horribly wrong!]
open sex tips #2 Avoid the serious talk. ‘We need to talk
about sex’ is the last thing you should say if you want to broach the topic of
sex and sexual fantasies. Well, that’s unless one of you say something that
offends the other.
The best time to talk about sex is when both of you are in
bed. The second best time to talk about it is when both of you are just fooling
around or relaxing around the house. The third best time to talk about it is
when the opportune moment crops up, either because of something a friend said
or something you saw on the telly or in a magazine
open sex tips #3 Speak in third person. If you’re feeling
terribly awkward about the impending sexual conversation, talk about a *friend
of yours* who likes a particular fantasy or has indulged in a particular sexual
act.
It’s easier to talk in third person, and if your partner
likes the idea, you can always smile sheepishly and confess that you were
talking about yourself! [Read: Top 10 sexual fantasies for men and Top 10
sexual fantasies for women]
open sex tips #4 Naughty questions. Want to explore sexual
ideas and fantasies without feeling awkward about it? There’s no better way to
do that than by using our list of dirty questions. Try them, and you’ll see
just how much both of you can learn about each other’s sexual interests in
under an hour! [Read: 30 incredibly horny and dirty would-you-rather questions
to ask your lover]
open sex tips #5 Don’t push it. Don’t go overboard while
trying to please your partner, or to prove that you love their idea even if you
don’t. Just because your partner enjoys something doesn’t mean they expect you
to enjoy the same things. Sometimes, it takes a compromise between sexual
interests. And at other times, it has to be a complete no-no.
Talk to your partner about your sexual interests, or hear
theirs out. Take some time for the ideas to sink in, and if it’s something you
just can’t do, be frank and tell your lover about it *without making them feel
judged!*
open sex tips #6 Delay penetration. What do you do when you
get into bed to make love? Do you rush into the act because you find your lover
irresistible? Well, stop and take it slow the next few times you’re in bed with
them.
Taking it slow in bed, and talking about things either of
you enjoy can be a revelation that can make your sex life a lot more
interesting. Take time to explore each other, talk about things both of you
enjoy and try new things that feel good in bed. [Read: 9 sexy things you can do
to delay penetration and drive each other crazy!]
open sex tips #7 Start the conversation with a confession. But
don’t go overboard just yet. If you’ve been trying to ask your partner what
they enjoy, and your partner just blushes coyly or pretends like they’re
interested in nothing but the missionary, don’t push them on.
Instead, make a small and calculated confession. Brush the
surface of something you enjoy and tell your partner about it. And see how your
boyfriend or girlfriend reacts to your little confession. Taking it slow can
help your partner test their own boundaries without assuming you’re a sexual
deviant! [Read: 10 naughty games for couples to explore their sexual secrets]
open sex tips #8 Talk dirty in bed. Dirty talk kicks butt, especially
when both of you are completely comfortable to explore each other’s sexual
minds without feeling inhibited by it. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and
make him horny!]
If you want your partner to open up to you and talk about
the things they enjoy sexually, just start talking about something naughty or
dirty while having sex with each other. One thing would lead to another, and
before you know it, you’ll unleash a wildcat. And oh yes, the sex will blow
your mind too! [Read: The right way to talk dirty to a girl without turning her
off]
open sex tips #9 Don’t clam up. Don’t judge your partner. Just
because your partner says they’ve fantasized about having a threesome or that
they like the idea of public flashing doesn’t make them a bad person. All of us
have our own sexual fantasies, and as tame as yours may seem to you, there’s a
big chance you’ll shock many with your own imagination!
If your partner trusts you enough to share their deepest, darkest
fantasies with you, the least you can do is let your partner know you accept
them for who they are. On the other hand, if you clam up and appear shocked or
annoyed, your partner may feel ashamed and never ever open up to you again!
open sex tips #10 That annoying feeling. If something your
partner says bothers you or pricks you hard, sit down with your partner. Calmly
and cautiously, tell them how you feel, all the while reassuring them that
you’re not judging them but just trying to understand their sexual side better.
On the other hand, if your partner’s sex talk or sexual
fantasies arouse or interest you, ask your partner to elaborate so you can add
your own dark experiences and interests into the conversation. [Read: How to
react to a sexual confession without losing your mind]
open sex tips #11 Sex suggestions aren’t criticisms. Understand
this well, and remember it. If your partner tells you something in bed that
offends you, even for a moment, you need to realize that your partner is
revealing it to you only to make both your sex lives better. And your partner
isn’t saying it just to hurt you or make you feel humiliated in bed.
Accept criticisms in bed gracefully, or even laugh about it.
But make sure you remember it so your partner can feel comfortable enough to
share their secrets with you in future too. [Read: 13 untold sex secrets you
definitely need to know!]
open sex tips #12 The right time. Don’t say the wrong things
at the wrong time. If your partner talks dirty or shares a fantasy that you
don’t particularly appreciate while having sex, don’t stop the to-and-fro
midway and stare at your partner with a shocked expression. And talking about
something embarrassing or awkward immediately after having sex isn’t advisable
either.
If you really want to go into details about a particular
fantasy of your lover’s, talk to them about it a while after they mention it, so
they don’t feel judged or insulted by your question. [Read: How to fantasize
about someone else in bed with your partner]
open sex tips #13 Be open to the conversation. Ask open
ended questions when you’re talking about sex secrets with your husband or wife,
and try to see things from their perspective before making judgments.
Discuss things both of you enjoy, and take baby steps into
the world of exploring sexual fantasies and dirty ideas together. If it works
and something makes both of you super horny, well, good for you guys! And if it
doesn’t excite you or your partner, move on, there are enough sexual ideas to
set your sexual passion on fire! And it all starts with communication.
open sex tips #14 Don’t be a prude. Look, if you want to
talk about sex and kinky ideas, you might as well throw prudishness out of the
window, and prepare yourself for a wild ride of sexual exploration. Reveal your
fantasies, get kinky and start by telling the truth about the things you enjoy
and the new things you want to try in bed.
